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My cousin died today

May 18th, 2021 at 02:10 am

My cousin in Florida who has been dealing with cancer passed away today. My wife and I had gone down to see him about 3 weeks ago. A few days after we got home, she went back and has been there since helping to take care of him. The past 2-3 days he had 24 hr care from hospice along with the home care aide we had hired. I'm sure it was still exhausting for my wife. She'll be flying home tomorrow evening so that will be good.

His funeral will be here in NJ so probably Wednesday morning we'll go over to the funeral home to make all of the arrangements. My mom will probably want to come along for that too.

Obviously I'm deeply saddened by his death as he has always been like a brother to me. That said, I'm also typically the practical one so I'm already working on taking care of business. I called and spoke to his lawyer today to find out what I need to do as I start dealing with the estate. I also chatted with our CPA who will handle that end of things.

The difficult but ultimately silver lining here is that I'll be inheriting somewhere in the neighborhood of $1.2 million when everything is settled. That will eventually lead to my retirement in the not too distant future. My cousin was a huge proponent of early retirement having retired at 55 himself. I can't think of anything that would please him more than knowing that the money he left me will allow me to do the same, though I'll likely be 58 by the time I get out. I really can't even fully process that end of things quite yet even though I've been running the numbers for months. Much more to come on that but first comes the mourning process and what I'm sure will be several months of working to settle everything, clean out the house, sell the cars, sell the house, transfer all of the accounts, etc. Maybe by the end of 2021 I'll have a pretty good idea of where things stand.

12 Responses to “My cousin died today”

  1. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad he had your wife at the end. I am sure your whole family feels this loss deeply. I know he'll be super happy to know you used his money wisely.

  2. mumof2 Says:

    sorry for your loss but its good to know he is no longer suffering...and also that he had a part in allowing you to retire early and enjoying life...hopefully you can get everything settled soon...may he rest in peace and I'm glad he had your wife there in the end

  3. Wink Says:

    I am very sorry for your loss Steve. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

  4. Turtle Lover Says:

    I am sorry for your loss. Even when you know it's coming it is still so hard. Blessings to you and your wife for taking care of him to the end.

  5. Petunia 100 Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  6. CB in the City Says:

    My condolences for losing a dear cousin. You and your wife have been angels.

  7. Brunette Says:

    I'm so sorry. It's a lot to deal with and I pray you have support and take all the time to grieve that you need.

  8. Dido Says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.

  9. terri77 Says:

    I’m so very sorry for your loss.

  10. PatientSaver Says:

    I am sorry for the loss of your cousin and I think your ideas around an early retirement are a wonderful thing. I'm looking forward to hearing more about it a you flesh out the details. I agree with you that your cousin would be happy with your decision, especially if you plan to use part of your downtime/retirement giving back in another way.

  11. rob62521 Says:

    Very sorry for your loss. You were good to take such an interest in your cousin as well as your wife helping out. I'm sure the cousin felt blessed.

  12. LuckyRobin Says:

    I'm sorry to hear you lost your cousin.

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